What if I told you the very thing you’re doing to “solve” your problems… is what’s keeping you stuck?
All the fixing.
The trying.
The pushing.
The manipulating.
The endless effort to get out of the discomfort you don’t want to feel—that’s not healing. That’s survival mode. That’s your ego. That’s your nervous system stuck in fight or flight, hijacking your life in the name of control.
But what if control isn’t the answer?
What if surrender is?
Let’s talk about the other side of the nervous system—the parasympathetic state. The place of receiving. Rest. Digest. Heal. Repair. Grow. Allow. It’s the state where you finally stop gripping and start letting the life you desire flow in.
Here’s the truth no one wants to hear:
The real root of your burnout, your anxiety, your patterns you swear you’re done repeating—it’s the avoidance of pain.
You’re not broken. You’re just running.
And you’re tired. So tired.
I get it—I was too.
I know that old advice, “feel it to heal it,” can sound like the most annoying thing on Earth when you’re neck-deep in discomfort. But here’s the kicker—it works.
Emotions aren’t the enemy. Avoiding them is.
They say emotions only last about 90 seconds when you actually let them move through.
That’s it.
So what if this time, instead of jumping into the next distraction, the next fix, the next “new beginning,” you just stayed?
What if you held yourself in the moment that hurts?
What if you let it be messy, raw, unfiltered… and let it pass through instead of stuffing it down?
Because on the other side of that 90 seconds?
There’s freedom.
There’s clarity.
There’s expansion.
There’s the version of you who no longer needs to run to feel safe.
And yes—there’s the life you’ve been craving. Not as a reward for suffering, but as a result of finally choosing to feel.
So no, I’m not going to offer you another “5-step fix.”
This time, I’m inviting you to do something revolutionary.
Sit with it.
Feel it.
Let it pass.
Then watch your entire life shift in ways forcing never could.