Let’s get one thing straight—your boundaries aren’t just about other people. They’re a reflection of your healing. Or your avoidance of it.
When you say yes to what hurts, to what drains, to what you know is beneath what you deserve—you’re not being “nice” or “understanding.”
You’re betraying yourself.
Every time you stay silent when your soul is screaming “no,”
Every time you tolerate crumbs while craving connection,
Every time you settle for chaos instead of choosing peace,
You’re sending a loud, clear message to yourself:
“I’m not worth more.”
Read that again.
Because here’s the hard truth no one wants to admit:
If you don’t set boundaries, you’re still making a choice.
A choice to remain in the very pain you’re pretending to escape.
Self-abandonment doesn’t look dramatic.
It looks like:
Staying in relationships that keep wounding you.
Saying “I’m fine” when you’re deeply unfulfilled.
Choosing loneliness with someone instead of the discomfort of being alone.
You call it being strong. I call it being stuck.
Stuck in the same loop, waiting for the wound to heal without ever removing the knife.
But here’s the truth you already feel in your bones:
💥 That pain you keep trying to manage? It’s not going anywhere until you face it head-on.
You can’t manifest your dream life while betraying the very person who’s supposed to live it—you.
When you finally stop running…
When you stop outsourcing your worth…
When you decide, “This ends with me”…
Something shifts.
And that version of you who’s been waiting on the other side of fear?
She doesn’t just heal.
She rises.
She’s powerful.
She’s grounded.
She’s unapologetically whole.
And she doesn’t settle for scraps when she was born to feast.
So ask yourself:
What would change if you stopped abandoning yourself today?
Because your healing doesn’t start with someone else choosing you.
It starts with you choosing you.