You’ve been trying to solve the same problem for months—maybe years.
You’ve read the books. You’ve journaled. You’ve micromanaged your habits. You’ve hustled, healed, optimized, and overanalyzed. But nothing’s changing.
Why?
Because the solution… is the opposite of everything you’ve been doing.
“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.” – Einstein
The burnout, the overwhelm, the stuckness—it’s not because you’re broken. It’s because you’re trapped in a loop:
Tense. Brace. Fix. Repeat.
You’ve been trained to do more when things feel out of control.
But what if the answer isn’t to do?
What if it’s to feel?
The Real Problem Isn’t What You Think
Most of us were taught to outrun our pain.
To be strong = to hold it together.
To succeed = to control the outcome.
To survive = to not feel too much.
So we white-knuckle through life, clenching our way into burnout, convinced that if we just try harder, we’ll finally arrive at peace.
But peace doesn’t come from fixing.
It comes from feeling.
This Is a Spiritual World
This isn’t about woo-woo wishful thinking. It’s about truth.
We live in a world that teaches us to treat every problem like a project to solve.
But the most persistent problems—the emotional loops, the self-doubt, the numbness, the rage—aren’t mechanical. They’re spiritual.
You can’t outthink grief.
You can’t biohack heartbreak.
You can’t schedule your way out of shame.
The only way out is through.
And the way through… is to feel it.
What You Couldn’t Do Then—You Can Do Now
If the idea of feeling your feelings makes your chest tighten, you’re not alone.
For many of us, emotions were dangerous growing up.
Pain felt like a tidal wave that might never stop. So we learned to shut it down.
But you’re not that scared child anymore.
You’re a well-resourced, powerful, sovereign adult.
And now? You can hold 90 seconds of discomfort without breaking.
You can breathe through the wave.
You can choose to feel what you used to run from—and you’ll realize:
It doesn’t break you.
It frees you.
The Practice
Next time the anxiety flares, or the sadness catches you off guard, or the rage bubbles up—pause.
Don’t fix.
Don’t numb.
Don’t scroll, snack, hustle, or spiritual-bypass.
Just sit.
Breathe.
Feel it.
Give it 90 seconds.
That’s all.
Let the wave rise, crest, and pass.
You don’t need to solve your way to peace.
You just need to feel your way