Have you ever found yourself longing—aching—for someone who hurt you?
It can feel like love. It feels like your heart is being pulled toward what must have been your soulmate. But here’s the truth: what your nervous system reads as “love” might actually be danger.
If you grew up in a toxic or chaotic environment, your body learned to associate adrenaline, intensity, and inconsistency with closeness. That rush, that drama—it became familiar. And as adults, we often mistake that old familiar feeling for love.
But that ache you feel when you walk away from someone who broke you?
That’s not a sign that you should go back. That’s your big, beautiful heart waking up. It’s your soul calling out for something real—something sacred.
Love Isn’t Meant to Hurt
Here’s something you might not know: the original Hebrew word often translated as rib in the story of Adam and Eve is actually “selah”, which more accurately means chamber—as in, the chamber of the heart.
Think about that.
Eve wasn’t made from Adam’s bone. She was made from his heart.
So maybe your longing isn’t for the person who left you broken—but for the one whose heart was made to match yours. Your Divine Partner. Your Kingdom Spouse.
That Ache Is a Beacon
The ache isn’t proof that you lost your soulmate. It’s proof that you are capable of incredible love. It’s your body and soul telling you that you are ready for something deeper, truer, more aligned.
But in order to find that kind of love, we have to close the trauma loops that keep pulling us into toxic patterns.
And that healing? It doesn’t start in the mind. It starts in the body.
The Body Knows the Way
Somatic trauma spotting—a powerful healing practice—can help you recognize and release stored pain, finally closing the trauma responses that attract unhealthy relationships. Your body already knows how to heal. You just have to set the stage for it.
Because complex trauma is a relational wound, it also requires relationships to heal. Safe relationships. Empowering relationships. Healing communities.
That’s why I created the More Than Enough Mastermind—a space for women like you to break free from trauma bonds, reclaim your worth, and call in the love you truly deserve.
You Are Not Broken
You are not too much. You are not too sensitive. You are not alone.
You are rare, and your heart is extraordinarily beautiful.
Now is the time to take care of it. To honor it. To heal it.
Let that ache become your compass—not to the past, but to the home your heart has always been seeking.
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Come join the sisterhood that knows your worth and believes in your healing.
With love,
Rebecca