Here’s the truth most people don’t talk about: if your nervous system is constantly stuck in fight or flight, you can ask the universe or your creator for anything, but you won’t actually receive it.
Think about it. You might be sending out requests for support, abundance, love, or clarity but if your body and mind are in an activated sympathetic state, your system is basically saying:
“Nope. I can’t handle this right now.”
Even if the answer is a resounding yes, your ability to receive is blocked. That’s why trauma healing isn’t optional it’s essential. Trauma leaves your nervous system on high alert, constantly signaling danger, and keeps you cut off from opportunities, joy, and yes… even help from others.
Nervous System Regulation Isn’t Just “Nice to Have”
Sure, tips and tricks to calm your nervous system help. Breathing exercises, grounding, movement they’re valuable. But if your trauma isn’t addressed, they’re just band-aids. You might get a momentary break, but you’ll snap back into fight or flight under stress.
Co-Regulation: The Shortcut Back to Calm
Here’s the secret most wellness guides leave out: co-regulation is the fastest, most effective way to get back into a parasympathetic state. That’s the state of calm certainty, where your body knows it’s safe and your mind knows you’re supported.
Think of co-regulation like a nervous system reset button. When you connect with another human someone attuned, present, and steady you literally retrain your nervous system to stay calmer, longer. That calm state is the only state where you can truly receive, integrate, and manifest what you’re asking for.
The Bottom Line
Healing trauma, regulating your nervous system, and practicing co-regulation aren’t separate hacks they’re interconnected keys to living a life where you don’t just ask… you receive.
Ask boldly. Heal deeply. Connect consciously. And watch the world finally meet you where you are.